Ask, Seek, Knock!
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Ask Seek Knock How To Use Questions in Your Quest for Success!
Key Strategies and Techniques for Personal and
Professional Achievement By Marcus Mottley, Ph.D.
I present three distinct yet related strategies:
(See the Table of Contents and Free Sample Chapters below) As a result of reading Ask, Seek, Knock:
(See the Table of Contents and Free Sample Chapters below)
Table of Contents Acknowledgements Chapter 1 Introduction
SECTION II Ask Questions & Receive Answers Chapter 2 My Quest for the Master Key Chapter 3 Great Thinkers Acknowledge the Power of Questions Chapter 4 The Question Mark Chapter 5 The Method & the Process .. Chapter 6 A Questioning Mindset Chapter 7 Identify Your Core Values Chapter 8 Solving Problems Creatively Chapter 9 Whats Possible? . Chapter 10 Reality Check Chapter 11 What Will I Find Out About Myself? Chapter 12 Why Me?
SECTION II Seek & Explore Chapter 13 Listening For Answers . Chapter 14 Standing on the Shoulders of Others Chapter 15 Emotions Chapter 16 Frozen Frigid Fright or Flight . Chapter 17 Dealing with Fear Keep Your Feet Moving .. Chapter 18 Anger & Blame Vs. Seeking Responsibility .. Chapter 19 Dealing with Impulsivity and Compulsivity .. Chapter 20 Tolerance and Respect . Chapter 21 A Burden on Knowing the Answers? . Chapter 22 Developing Personal Relationships Chapter 23 Dealing with Difficult People .. Chapter 24 Forgiveness Seeking or Giving? ... Chapter 25 Are You Uncomfortably Comfortable? .. Chapter 26 Questions That Motivate & Persuade Chapter 27 A Sense of Direction Where Am I Headed? Chapter 28 Questions That Provoke and Propel
SECTION III Knock & Act On . Chapter 29 Developing A Sense of Urgency .. Chapter 30 From Asking & Answering To Action Chapter 31 Can You Change Your Life? . Chapter 32 Marketing Yourself & Your Business Enterprise ... Chapter 33 Take Action! Chapter 34 Willingness Having An Unbending Commitment Chapter 35 Act Now!
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Previews From Selected Chapters: Chapter 11 What Will I Find Out About Myself? One of the reasons that many of us do no ask ourselves probing questions is that we are afraid of finding out the answers. In reality, we know, or at least have some clue about what lies hidden there; hidden more from ourselves than from others. This fear of whats hidden may be quite vague and may often surface as a subtle nuance of discomfort, irritability, pain, anger or frustration. There could be several reasons why we might be afraid to probe. What will you find out about yourself when you begin to ask deeper and deeper questions? What will you uncover when you begin to look beneath and peel away the veil of denial, secrecy, anger, pet-peeves, personal vendettas and negative campaigns, physical and psychological illnesses, jealousy, aggressiveness, pseudo-toughness, workaholic behaviors, withdrawal or other types of emotions and behaviors? What will you find out about yourself when you look more closely in the mirror at the person that you may never have really seen with your potential, possibilities, and probabilities looking at the you that could have been or maybe, the real you that lies hidden waiting to burst free? If only you allow yourself to see the possible you ! Remember we said that questions put us under the spotlight. They can expose many hidden elements of our psyche, behavior and feelings. It takes courage to focus on ourselves in that way. Is it worth it? If you are suffering from some discomfort, or you are dissatisfied with some aspect of your life, it may be worth it to uncover and then explore so that you can make significant changes for the better. Most of us probably either know the answers to most of these questions, or have a sense of the direction that those answers might take us; A direction that probably involves sensitive and intensely uncomfortable issues. And, maybe, at sometime in the past we might have made a conscious or semi-conscious decision not to deal with or face these issues because of the pain and discomfort we realize or perceive that we may experience, or the pain and discomfort that these issues are attached to. For example, Dennis was considered to be a very competent computer specialist who worked in a large, busy law firm. His wife literally dragged him to see me because according to her he was having problems on his job with male administrators and male lawyers. To read about how Dennis dealt with this challenging situation, go to page 141 of Ask, Seek, Knock. *************************************************************************** Chapter 15Emotions That Simmer!
Emotions that simmer beneath the threshold of awareness can have a powerful impact on how we perceive and react, even though we have no idea they are at work. Daniel Goleman in Emotional Intelligence As we seek to empower our life and achieve success in our endeavors, we must be aware that negative emotions can be major obstacles which stand in our paths. One solution is to endeavor to become more familiar with our internal processes. The art of using questions to enhance ones learning can be traced to Socrates who said I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think. It was also Socrates who first said, Know thyself! A key part of knowing oneself is recognizing the the emotions that simmer beneath the threshold of awareness. How do you unearth and expose these emotions? Use the Socratic method of asking questions. If you feel something and you are unsure what it is, ask yourself, What am I feeling? Is it fear, anger, irritation, frustration, anxiety, or jealousy? You could also be feeling love or hate, hope or helplessness, in control or out of control, sense of wonder or a feeling of familiarity, confidence or confusion, a sense of direction or feeling lost ! Examine your feelings can you differentiate between the nuances and flavors of your different internal experiences? Are you emotionally intelligent? How knowledgeable are you about your own feelings? How willing are you to examine, unearth, and uncover your most deeply held and hidden feelings? One key to emotional intelligence is the ability to continuously monitor your feelings on a moment to moment basis. Recovering addicts and alcoholics, who employ 12-Step programs, are familiar with the idea of taking life one day at a time. When you monitor your feelings you ought to learn to do so one second at a time and examine one feeling at a time. This is like having a picture-in-picture view of your internal environment while you are concentrating on the big pictures of life. As you talk with your teenager, or deal with a difficult customer, or drive on the highway, you can hold on to a lifeline that gives you immediate intelligent feedback on your feelings as they subtly and almost imperceptibly sway, shift, move and change back and forth, up and down. We are constantly feeling and experiencing stuff. Every thought, idea, piece of information, is accompanied by a feeling. Every bit of sensory information what we see, taste, smell, touch, and hear makes up the feeling component. There is also a relationship between feeling and thinking and a link between internal and external stimuli. Am I cool, warm or cold? Am I hungry or full? Can I sense my heartbeat? Am I tense or relaxed? Do I feel happy, sad, guilty, irritated, frustrated, calm, disoriented ? What are you feeling emotionally as you read this book? Stop! I didnt ask what you are thinking! I asked, What are you feeling emotionally? Check you chest, stomach or belly area what do you feel? If you say that you feel hungry, thirsty, warm or cold, then you are beginning to get it. But those are somatic or physiological feelings. Lets move to a deeper emotional awareness. To read more of this chapter and learn a powerful technique on how to manage "Simmering Emotions", go to page 180 of Ask, Seek, Knock. *************************************************************************** Chapter 22 Developing Personal Relationships Why am I stuck in this job? How can I move on? Do I really want to move on? Am I comfortable? Am I too comfortable? There are always a myriad of reasons why we stay where we are even when we are dissatisfied with our current status. One of the clearest examples of this can be seen when we ask, Why do people stay in bad relationships? The answer to this cannot ordinarily be answered by the person asking the question - unless one of two things is a factor. The questioner has placed him or herself in the other persons shoes. Or he/she has previously been there in that situation. So the real question is Why do I stay in this relationship? Is this a bad relationship? Or, better, whats bad about this relationship? And, whats good about this relationship? Individuals on the outside of a relationship can often more easily see the negative in another relationship than in their own. Individuals in the relationship may see both the negative and the positive, may see neither, or are focused on one or the other. However if they do see the bad, why do they not seek changes? Is there a secondary gain for allowing things to stay the same? Is there some overriding reason that persuades them (both) to accept the negative so that they may hold on to what they see as positive irrespective of how miniscule that may be. Ginny, a mother of two children, was in a three year relationship with Scottie. The relationship began to deteriorate when Ginny found out that Scottie was seeing two other women. One year ago he had stopped contributing to the household expenses, even though this was where he slept and ate, most of the time. He refused to let the children see or receive any assistance from their biological father. He expected Ginny to cook, do his laundry, care for the children and do the household work - after she came home from her fulltime job. He was also physically abusive - both to her and to her children. There were many days when she didnt go to work because of the bruises on her face and arms. Why? Everyone asked, Why doesnt she leave? I asked a different set of questions. First, how does Ginny see or feel about the relationship and the events in the relationship? Everyone correctly assumed that she saw the same things that they did. To read more on how Ginny was able to change her life, and how you can deal with unsatisfying relationships and attract and enter into more fulfilling circumstances, go to page 248 of Ask, Seek, Knock. ***************************************************************************
Chapter 32 Marketing Yourself and Your Business Enterprise Are you in the business of marketing? If you answered no, you are wrong. Everyone is in the business of marketing or selling. Employees must market or sell themselves as valuable resources to their company, supervisors, and co-workers. This is becoming more and more important in todays employment market where workers must daily demonstrate that they are valuable human assets that contribute to their companys bottom line or to the achievement of their organizations vision and mission. Most people recognize the importance of marketing themselves when they are applying for a job. They prepare an impressive resume that touts their knowledge, skills, and history of accomplishments. They dress professionally for an interview for which they have planned and rehearsed. They do everything to make the best impression possible in order to get the job. They are selling their skills, knowledge and expertise. They are selling a package, product or service just like large and small businesses around the world. The growth of small business enterprises and entrepreneurs over the last decade has provided the fuel which is driving global economic growth. Every employee or entrepreneur, whether they provide a service or market a product, can benefit from enhancing their marketing campaigns to customers, clients or colleagues. I have developed a set of 37 questions to help you increase your levels of success whether you are an accountant, psychologist, clerk, supervisor, administrator, small business owner, community activist, politician, athlete, taxi-driver, clerical assistant, preacher, construction worker or elementary school teacher. As part of the process of Ask, Seek, Knock (Ask, Answer, Act), this activity can help you to re-evaluate and reposition your efforts to have better success at the things you are already doing. It can help you in redesigning your promotional efforts in your personal and/or professional life. To accomplish these, you need to answer these questions thoroughly. Take your time, think deeply and write down the answers.
Purchase the book, in order to get the benefit of the other 31 questions in this Chapter - to maximize your personal and business success.
Thank you! Ask Seek Knock on the doors of Success!
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